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Marriage
today seems to be something different from the purpose which God creates it.
Despite the advanced and sophisticated ways introduced into the celebration of
marriage these days. Marriage seems to be depreciating in essence and value in
the modern society. But then fact still remains that, many couples are not
enjoying the peaceful and memorable companionship of husbands and wives which
they are entitled to. So whatever you call it, divorce or separation, it is
distortion of the married life and vision which God introduced marriage.
THEN
WHAT IS MARRIAGE ITSELF?
Marriage is a partnership for the whole of life established
between a man and woman, which by its very nature is ordered to the well-being
of the spouses themselves and to the procreation and education of children.
What
do I mean by partnership here? The writer here consist in the gift of the
partners themselves, which means the acceptance of each other with all their
strength and weakness, their qualities and their faults, through all life’s
stages and situations.
Marriage is a sharing of one destiny, a common activity and
a common aim. Its however, cannot be defined absolutely since it can be
achieved in a variety of ways according to the culture to which the partners
belong. Marriage can be described as the relationship between the spouses,
which according to the common estimation of the culture to which the partners
belong, is considered normal, acceptable and humanly livable.
In marriage, the two partners have to pool their resources
both spiritually and materially, in order to learn how to understand, sustain,
accept and pardon each other in such a way that, they will achieve their human
fulfillment.[http://sparklingmediaconcept.blogspot.com]
In marriage according to the writer, it can be viewed in
two perspectives thus: http://sparklingmediaconcept.blogspot.com.
MARRIAGE
AS A NATURAL INSTITUTION and MARRIAGE AS A SACRAMENT.
MARRIAGE
AS A NATURAL INSTITUTION: what it means here is that,
marriage flows from .[http://sparklingmediaconcept.blogspot.com] the nature of
mankind, which is divided into sexes. As an office of nature was instituted by
God by a positive ordination when after creation of Adam, he formed Eve as a
companion or helper as easily called and blessed their partnership.
Also as a natural institution, marriage is essentially a
covenant and a bond effected by the mutual exchange of consent.
MARRIAGE
AS A SACRAMENT:
According to the Code of Canon Law, “The marriage covenant,
by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of their
whole life, and which by its very nature is ordered to the well being of the
spouses themselves and to the procreation and education of children, has
between the baptized, been raised by Christ to the dignity of a sacrament”.
What do the writer mean here, [http://sparklingmediaconcept.blogspot.com],
this means Christ himself determined that the marriage covenant of two
Christians should only be lived according to the pattern of His own union with
His Church, which is unbreakable and unconditional fidelity, but also be an
image of His union with His Church and be a participation in it.
This gives the partners
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new way in the flow of grace, which animates and directs them to find in their
marriage their way to union with the Lord.
The Christian marriage gives the couple
[http://sparklingmediaconcept.blogspot.com] a new resemblance to Christ. They
now given to and for each other, have as model for their marital life Christ in
His gift of himself to and for his people. Thus Christian marriage brings the
couple into a new and real relationship with the church community, as the
couple receives a new role in the mission of the church.
COMMON PROBLEMS COUPLES FACE IN
THEIR FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE.
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| Newly married couple |
That
first year you spend as husband and wife will be one of the most challenging
for you as a couple. You’re getting to know each other and there will be so
many new situations to navigate.
Knowing
about what to expect in the first year of marriage will help you prepare for
them and you may even prevent some by being proactive before your wedding.
1. MONEY ISSUES
When
you get married, you have to make a big financial shift. Regardless of whether
there’s a sole breadwinner or you’re both pitching in, you’ll start learning
each other’s spending habits. Perhaps one person is more frugal and the other
lives within a strict budget. Being able to come together to sort out spending
and financial goals is very important in the beginning.
2. INLAWS
No
matter how cool you were with your fiancé’s family before marriage, being
officially man and wife will bring about a few changes. There are obligations
to consider and boundaries to set in that first year of marriage.
3. QUIRKS BECOME MORE BOTHERSOME
Those
little annoying things that your partner once did that you probably find
adorable will soon become irksome. If he’s a talker, for instance, you may
begin to find the idea of staying up late to listen to him or him distracting
you when you’re reading increasingly irritating.
4. HOUSEHOLD CHORES
If
you’ve never lived together before, you’ll be faced with what to do with chores
in the first year of marriage. If you both work full-time, you will have to
come up with how to divvy up everything in such a way that one partner does not
feel resentful about doing it all. You may also consider hiring help.
5. INTIMACY
Couples
sometimes feel so comfortable in their marriage that they don’t have that
urgency to connect physically like they did when they were dating. Perhaps it’s
that you know you can get it whenever you want. Sometimes one partner is more
comfortable with letting sex take a back seat while the other feels resentful.
This becomes one of the challenges of the first year of marriage.
Open
communication is the best way to deal with any of these situations above. Talk
to your partner if you’re not happy with the situation of things and you should
be able to come to a compromise that works for you both.
