Why are you rushing to get married?
Better single and slaying than married and miserable.
Have you given it enough thought before saying 'I do'?
I’ll be the first to categorically state that weddings are beautiful and marriages can be sweet.
Having documented so many weddings and having seen the intensity of the joy on couples’ faces at ceremonies, this much can not be denied.
To beautify a wedding is easy. All you need do is pay a good event planner and that’s settled.
To have a beautiful marriage is however a different thing entirely, and you definitely can’t pay anyone to sweeten your marital union.
No matter how long you have been in a relationship with someone, once the seal of marriage is stamped on that relationship, something changes.
For people who had lovely relationships before their marriages, it might be subtle and they might seamlessly blend into it but that change is undeniable.
Beautiful weddings are not the same as happy marriages. (Redbook)
The threshold of commitment, faithfulness, honesty, effort and all other traits you used to keep the relationship going will become higher.
The margin for error becomes lower. Of course, no one expects perfection, but the need to strive for something close to it becomes ever-so obvious, almost palpable.
And it would appear that a lot of people are yet to understand this. Or maybe they do know and are just not ready for it.
The rate of divorce attests to this. Marriages crash every other day.
Of the marriages yet to officially crash, a glum-inducing number have failed and are only being held together by frazzled reasons such as the presence of children and to keep up appearances.
The Nigerian society is one that places premium on marital status so much so that at time of writing this piece, I am 75% sure that a mother is calling her son to ask why he’s yet to come introduce his wife-to-be to her.
Segun, when are you going to give me grandchildren.
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